I don’t see the point in not telling someone what they need to hear to learn. Maybe it’s naive of me to think that all people can be honest but live together with a certain level of civility. Is it really the only option for us to coexist like human beings that we are? Do we really need to be nice when the person is in front of us then tell other people what we don’t like about them?

This is especially true in the workplace. Peers, subordinates, even your boss; They all hide something from you to supposedly “protect” your feelings. But heck, I don’t need that. I won’t learn if you don’t tell me what needs to change. What? Am I suppose to just “know” it? 

I’ve had this problem before. And it was my then mentor-boss, Aya, who told me what was wrong, guided me patiently and saw my “transformation”. From being an individual contributor who only thinks of herself, I was able to become a team player; I became a Supervisor. And a reliable one at that.  

But now, another episode is playing out. And this time, I’m not the only one playing the lead role. A fellow supervisor is having the same problem. But did her boss tell her what’s wrong? Did my previous boss, Brea, told me anything? Fuck no… Both these people played their cards under the table thinking that we wouldn’t know about it. Ha! Talk about naivete. Walls have ears and people talk a lot more when it’ll bring about the dramatics. Yep, we found out.

My supervisor friend is in a deeper shit-hole than me. It’s her boss so she has to deal with her. I, on the other hand, could look on the bright side and say that I have a better role and a better boss now. Or think that the reason I’m in this role is because Brea, knowing that I hate routine, just wanted me to grow by giving me a more challenging role. I can do that and not be angry.. But of course, I had to think too much and put myself in a bad mood hence this long blog.

She, my supervisor friend, told me earlier, ” I think the reason she did that is because she wants to put me in my place. She wants to tell me that I’m nothing if it weren’t for her,”. FUCK THAT. OMG, are we - and I’m including myself here because I also have a beef with that old hag- that significant of a presence that you have to go out of your way just to squash? You’re supposed to be older and wiser. GROW UP SOME MORE WILL YOU?